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Becoming a Non Smoker

Did you ever smoke and are you now a non smoker? You must feel that sense of pride and achievement, and no doubt very, very happy and relieved. Yes, and of course it is an achievement and you have made it – so well done!

Receiving lots of comments and congratulations?

Family are usually the ones who appreciate the sacrifice and effort you have made because they are the ones who worry about you. Clients often tell me that their partner hasn’t made them give up.

Hugh Hamilton

Hugh Hamilton-Smoking killed him at age 47

However so often the smell, mess and worry about their partners health as a smoker is the true reality of their concern and silence. They feel helpless as I did with my husband when he continued to smoke. Being a trained nurse and knowing the facts, resulted in a great deal of stress especially with four young children. When my husband had his first heart attack, I was scared and worried, even more worried when he decided he wanted to work in PNG. Thankfully the hospital on Bougainville was the best equipped hospital in PNG. So we were blessed.

Twenty months later when he had his second heart attack I was working as the Nursing Superintendent at the hospital. The Medical Superintendent medivac’d him out the next day so he was in Brisbane when they diagnosed him two days later with extensive lung cancer. This had caused a blockage of one of the main arteries to his heart resulting in his heart attack. I sent one of the trained staff to travel with him so I could stay with the children.

The dangers of living on Bougainville

At that time Bougainville was becoming more isolated with the violence; the airport had been destroyed along with all the planes except one which had been severely damaged. However the staff were able to repair the plane sufficiently which allowed it to continue flying. It was a difficult time as I had two children still on the island. However a very dear friend agreed to care for the children until we could organise flights out of Bougainville. They also packed up our house which was a huge task. Such kindness is never forgotten as another very kind person gave up their seat on the next available flight to allow me to travel to Brisbane all the while unsure of how my husband was doing. We had to make four stops including an overnight stay in Cairns due to the problems on Bougainville. At every stop I wasn’t sure if I had a seat on the next flight as I hadn’t booked. However the airline used their emergency seating to accommodate me. When I arrived in Brisbane my husband was very sick as they had started chemotherapy. There was such a lot of cancer the body struggled to remove the dead cells from the cancer and chemo.

What about the Children?

I was delighted when the children arrived three days later and we could spend time with their father. We had 11 months with him before he died a most unpleasant death having gone through chemo and later on radiotherapy when he was diagnosed with brain tumours. However I will always look back on those 11 months and feel gratitude for this time with him. Wherever I can, I will continue to help other families so their loved one can have additional time with them. So love your partner, families and the world at large. You have had your life extended by up to 14 years now so love your life and enjoy those people around you.

If you or someone you care about are stuck in the grip of a tobacco habit, there are people who can help empower you to make the choice to quit smoking. To learn more about strengthening your willpower, visit: http://lifecoachtoquitsmoking.com/

How Can Hypnosis Help Me

If you are seeking help or experiencing the frustration of being a smoker, the

those emotions that are affecting your quality of life, then please do reach out as The Richards Trauma Process (TRTP) is helping hundreds, maybe even thousands of people change their mind so they are now living an extraordinary life.  You have an opportunity to explore this process as we are offering a half hour Complimentary Consultation. Not only will you have the opportunity to meet Maureen Hamilton who is a TRTP Therapist, Maureen will also have the opportunity to meet you and share her experience with you. You can also call Maureen on 1300 619 684.

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Want Your Loved One to Quit Smoking? Here is What NOT to Do

The struggle of doing it on your own.

If you have a loved one—a mum, dad, daughter, husband or best friend—who smokes, then you likely want to help him or her give up the deadly habit. But being a good quit smoking helper is not always an easy thing. And sometimes, the ways in which you try to help your loved one quit smoking can actually do more harm than good.

So how do you become a good quit smoking helper?

Well, becoming a good quit smoking helper is actually less about knowing what to do and more about knowing what not to do. So if you are accompanying someone you care about on a quit smoking journey, here are some behaviors you should not take along on the ride:

  • Condescending Behavior: Talking down to your loved one because he or she is struggling with a bad habit is a surefire way to help him or her lose confidence and build up resentment—resentment that can later be used to blame you for a failed quit smoking attempt. As a quit smoking supporter, you need to be very empathic—even if you yourself have never smoked. Quitting smoking is both brave and hard—don’t treat the smoker you love in way that makes him or her feel bad or ashamed or inferior. A smoker who feels like that will not be in the right psychological state to give up cigarettes.
  • Controlling Behavior: On the quit smoking journey, if you are not the smoker, then you are not in the driver’s seat. It is not your job to set ultimatums, provide willpower or make decisions vis-à-vis quitting smoking. Change is something that only comes from within. Change will only come from within the smoker—the smoker you loved will quit smoking because he or she has made the conscious decision to do so, not because you have made the decision for him or her.
  • Angry Behavior: Anger is not a constructive emotion when it comes to being a quit smoking supporter. Anger leads to fighting, shaming, and hopelessness. If the smoker you love takes a wrong turn, runs out of gas or gets a flat tire on the quit smoking journey, reacting in anger will only make things worse. Like all journeys, the quit smoking journey will have its ups and downs. It is up to you to be supportive by maintaining emotional balance and not giving in to anger.
  • Nagging Behavior: Nagging is never a way to get a positive outcome. Constantly harping on your loved one about quitting smoking while he or she is trying to quit smoking is psychologically stressful and can create tension and resentment in the relationship. Again, change comes from within. No amount of nagging on your part will create the authentic change from within needed for your loved one to quit smoking.
  • Negative Behavior: As a quit smoking supporter, you need to contribute to a positive healthy environment on the quit smoking journey. Negative thoughts, emotions and attitudes, then, should be kept at a minimum.

 

The quit smoking journey is not your journey. You are along for the ride as a helper—which means you need to engage in helpful behaviors. By avoiding the unhelpful behaviors listed above, you will naturally become supportive in a healthy way. And by being healthy, and truly supportive, you will increase your loved one’s chances of safe arrival at Smoke Free City tenfold.
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Smoking’s Effect on the Teeth

Louisa Stokes / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Louisa Stokes / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

You are likely well aware of the many adverse side-effects linked to smoking http://lifecoachtoquitsmok ing.com/smoking-2/why-you-shouldnt-smoke-the-basics, but one issue that often goes unnoticed in the quit smoking battle is the harm cigarettes can do to your teeth.

Smoking is toxic and the thousands of poisons and chemicals in each cigarette hinder the functioning of your body’s circulatory system, meaning that the blood you need to keep your gums healthy and strong isn’t quite making it to your mouth. Furthermore, cigarettes interfere with your body’s ability to generate new cells and as a result healing and preservation don’t take place vis-à-vis your teeth. These are the main reasons why smoking can lead to a plethora of dental problems, including:
• Gum disease
• Bad breath
• Tooth discoloration
• Plaque and tarter build-up
• Inflamed salivary glands
• Oral cancer

All of the issues above are impediments to your health and happiness (who wants to go around with bad breath). What’s worse is that life with oral cancer can be fatal. Thus, smoking is tantamount to giving up on dental care.

If you want to have healthy teeth then you really should consider quitting smoking. Perhaps you realize this and you are looking for a way to kick your cigarette habit? One quit smoking method that is worth your efforts is quit smoking hypnosis. Quit smoking hypnosis harnesses the power of the brain—the power you have over your own mind—towards positive changes in habits and beliefs. Since research shows that smoking is a psycho-social habit, quit smoking hypnosis gives you the chance to quit smoking for good by creating new, healthy habits that don’t include cigarettes.

So, are you looking to quit smoking? Then get involved in the discussion on Facebook and Twitter to learn more about your quit smoking options.

How NOT to Be a People Pleaser

There are some people who could care less about what other people think or how they feel and there are some people whose self-esteem depends entirely on making other people happy. Both extremes are problematic and impede the development of healthy, fulfilling relationships.  Society, however,  tends to look more kindly on those who fall into the latter category—the people pleasers—and thus they have a harder time identifying that they have a problem.

If you are a people pleaser, then you probably spend most of your time thinking about the needs and feelings of others. You rarely, if ever, think about yourself. If you are a people pleaser, you likely let other people dictate the terms of your life. You probably feel very uncomfortable—or maybe don’t even know how—expressing your needs and feelings. If you are a people pleaser, then you likely have little self-confidence or sense of self. You look to others for validation and don’t trust your own instincts.

The problem with being a people pleaser is multifaceted. First, you repress your needs and feelings by always going out of your way for others. You let people take advantage of you. You don’t stand up for yourself. This behavior leads to anger, resentment and a very low sense of self-esteem. Second, as counterintuitive as it may seem, being a people pleaser is actually a control issue. Pleasing people means exerting control over them—“I did this for you, I made you happy—now you owe me.” Sound familiar? If so, then you probably notice that controlling people isn’t a way to show them love and care. Third, as a people pleaser, you are very likely going after the approval of people who didn’t approve of you in your younger years—mother, father, ex-boyfriend etc. You probably try to please people to fulfill an emotional void and you often try to please the wrong kind of people: people who use you, people who make you feel bad about yourself, people who are emotionally unavailable or even people who are physically abusive.

So how do you break the destructive people pleasing cycle? The answer is pretty simple: by getting to know yourself. When you learn to quiet your mind, be in your body and tap into your own thoughts, feelings and intuition, then you learn to balance caring for others with caring for yourself. And the more you get to know yourself, the more you make loving yourself a priority, the more you will realize that you don’t need to please people to get love and self-esteem. The people who are worthy of having relationships with you will love you for who you are and not for what you can give them. They will be there for you and give you a shoulder to cry on too. The people worth having relationships with will be about giving and receiving instead of just taking.

So stop being a people pleaser. Get to know yourself and get to know the kind of people you want to have in your life—the people who you can build healthy, fulfilling relationships with.

Tired of being a people pleaser? Then visit us on Facebook andTwitter to learn more about getting to know—and love—yourself. 

Synaptol: An Effective ADHD Treatment?

 

ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) is, paradoxically, both a widespread and controversial disease. This is a paradox as there are many people who have been diagnosed with the disease and many people who claim the disease does not exist. Some believe it is made up by the greedy head honchos of Big Pharma while others see it as a legitimate way of explaining hyperactive behavior in both children and adults. For the purposes of this article, however, the underlying assumption is that ADHD exists. [Read more…]