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Living with a Partner Who Smokes

Are you a non-smoker living with a partner who smokes?

How does that feel? Did you ever smoke and are now a non smoker? You must feel so proud of yourself and your achievement. Yes, it is an achievement and you have made it – so well done!

Have you been receiving lots of comments and congratulations from family and friends?

Family are usually the ones who appreciate the sacrifice and effort you have made because they are the ones who worry about you. Clients often tell me that their partner hasn’t made them give up. However so often the smell, mess and worry about their partners health as a smoker is the true reality of their concern and silence. They feel helpless as I did with my husband when he continued to smoke. Being a trained nurse and knowing the facts resulted in a great deal of stress especially with four young children. When he had his first heart attack I was scared and worried even more when he decided he wanted to work in PNG. Thankfully the hospital on Bougainville was the best equipped hospital in PNG. So we were blessed.

Twenty months later when he had his second heart attack I was working as the Nursing Superintendent at the hospital. The Medical Superintendent medivac’d him out the next day so he was in Brisbane when they diagnosed him two days later with extensive lung cancer. This had caused a blockage of one of the main arteries to his heart resulting in his heart attack. I sent one of the trained staff to travel with him so I could stay with the children.

The dangers of living on Bougainville

At that time Bougainville was becoming more isolated with the violence; the airport had been destroyed along with all the planes except one which had been severely damaged. However the staff were able to repair the plane sufficiently which allowed it to continue flying. It was a difficult time as I had two children still on the island. However a very dear friend agreed to care for the children until we could organise flights out of Bougainville. They also packed up our house which was a huge task. Such kindness is never forgotten as another very kind person gave up their seat on the next available flight to allow me to travel to Brisbane all the while unsure of how my husband was doing. We had to make four stops including an overnight stay in Cairns due to the problems on Bougainville. At every stop I wasn’t sure if I had a seat as I hadn’t booked. However the airline used their emergency seating to accommodate me. When I arrived in Brisbane my husband was very sick as they had started chemotherapy. There was such a lot of cancer the body struggled to remove the dead cells from the cancer and chemo.

What about the Children?

I was delighted when the children arrived three days later and we could spend time with their father. We had 11 months with him before he died a most unpleasant death having gone through chemo and later on radiotherapy when he was diagnosed with brain tumours. However I will always look back on those 11 months and feel gratitude for this time with him. Wherever I can I will continue to help other families so their loved one can have additional time with them. So love your partner, families and the world at large. You have had your life extended by up to 14 years now so love your life and enjoy those people around you.

If you or someone you care about are stuck in the grip of a tobacco habit there are people who can help empower you to make the choice to quit smoking. To learn more about strengthening your willpower, visit: http://lifecoachtoquitsmoking.com/

Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/7635673

Customer Testimonials

Hi Maureen, You worked your wonders on me on the 16th of January 2013 for smoking and guess what? I haven’t had a smoke or even felt like one! It is truly amazing after smoking for over 30 years I am no longer a slave to the smokes. I feel better (although I was a bit grumpy for a week or so) but that has passed, I can breathe better and my cough has gone. But food tastes so much better so I am trying to watch what I eat. I do get a craving every now and then and it goes as quick as it come…
Giovanni (John) Castellana

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