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WANT to Quit Smoking

Conflict in Relationships

Quitting can be a challenge however when it comes to a couple it can be even more challenging. There may be a greater WANT for one and not so great for another. Even after they have quit, one may put pressure on the other, either good or not so good.

Can people be forced to Quit Smoking?

Conflict in Relationships

Do you have a partner who smokes?

Alexis decided he wanted to quit smoking as his partner had such great success when she stopped smoking after her quit session. However after several months she had started again. So I asked him if he felt she really did want to quit. His reply was “Definitely as I was going to kick her out if she didn’t stop smoking.” When asked why she should stop smoking when he was still smoking. He said because her family had a history of lung cancer and emphysema and he wanted her to live a long life with him and the kids.

Note: Sometimes there can be a history of these illnesses due to smoking however that doesn’t mean it won’t affect people who don’t have a similar history. Some people feel they are invincible and this could never happen to them. Sadly this isn’t the truth as very young people are now dying from smoking related illnesses.

Why is it important to have the Want?

Why am I bringing this up here? Well it is really important that you want to quit and not be doing it for someone else. Hypnosis is not a magic bullet that changes a mind that doesn’t want to be changed. Hypnosis is possibly the most successful method for quitting cigarettes. People cannot be made to do something that goes against their will. That is why during hypnosis a person can stop the hypnosis at any time as they are in complete and full control of their senses.

How did it end?

So the good news is that Alexis was a non smoker at the end of his session. He also received a good pep talk that it has to be his partners choice if she wants to stop smoking, not his. I also suggested that when she is ready she will be very welcome to return for a follow up session. One of the many benefits people get from coming to Life Coach to Quit Smoking is that they have that Lifetime Guarantee.  So if they ever start smoking again then they can come back for their free session.

Living with a Partner Who Smokes

Are you a non-smoker living with a partner who smokes?

How does that feel? Did you ever smoke and are now a non smoker? You must feel so proud of yourself and your achievement. Yes, it is an achievement and you have made it – so well done!

Have you been receiving lots of comments and congratulations from family and friends?

Family are usually the ones who appreciate the sacrifice and effort you have made because they are the ones who worry about you. Clients often tell me that their partner hasn’t made them give up. However so often the smell, mess and worry about their partners health as a smoker is the true reality of their concern and silence. They feel helpless as I did with my husband when he continued to smoke. Being a trained nurse and knowing the facts resulted in a great deal of stress especially with four young children. When he had his first heart attack I was scared and worried even more when he decided he wanted to work in PNG. Thankfully the hospital on Bougainville was the best equipped hospital in PNG. So we were blessed.

Twenty months later when he had his second heart attack I was working as the Nursing Superintendent at the hospital. The Medical Superintendent medivac’d him out the next day so he was in Brisbane when they diagnosed him two days later with extensive lung cancer. This had caused a blockage of one of the main arteries to his heart resulting in his heart attack. I sent one of the trained staff to travel with him so I could stay with the children.

The dangers of living on Bougainville

At that time Bougainville was becoming more isolated with the violence; the airport had been destroyed along with all the planes except one which had been severely damaged. However the staff were able to repair the plane sufficiently which allowed it to continue flying. It was a difficult time as I had two children still on the island. However a very dear friend agreed to care for the children until we could organise flights out of Bougainville. They also packed up our house which was a huge task. Such kindness is never forgotten as another very kind person gave up their seat on the next available flight to allow me to travel to Brisbane all the while unsure of how my husband was doing. We had to make four stops including an overnight stay in Cairns due to the problems on Bougainville. At every stop I wasn’t sure if I had a seat as I hadn’t booked. However the airline used their emergency seating to accommodate me. When I arrived in Brisbane my husband was very sick as they had started chemotherapy. There was such a lot of cancer the body struggled to remove the dead cells from the cancer and chemo.

What about the Children?

I was delighted when the children arrived three days later and we could spend time with their father. We had 11 months with him before he died a most unpleasant death having gone through chemo and later on radiotherapy when he was diagnosed with brain tumours. However I will always look back on those 11 months and feel gratitude for this time with him. Wherever I can I will continue to help other families so their loved one can have additional time with them. So love your partner, families and the world at large. You have had your life extended by up to 14 years now so love your life and enjoy those people around you.

If you or someone you care about are stuck in the grip of a tobacco habit there are people who can help empower you to make the choice to quit smoking. To learn more about strengthening your willpower, visit: http://lifecoachtoquitsmoking.com/

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Want Your Loved One to Quit Smoking? Here is What NOT to Do

The struggle of doing it on your own.

If you have a loved one—a mum, dad, daughter, husband or best friend—who smokes, then you likely want to help him or her give up the deadly habit. But being a good quit smoking helper is not always an easy thing. And sometimes, the ways in which you try to help your loved one quit smoking can actually do more harm than good.

So how do you become a good quit smoking helper?

Well, becoming a good quit smoking helper is actually less about knowing what to do and more about knowing what not to do. So if you are accompanying someone you care about on a quit smoking journey, here are some behaviors you should not take along on the ride:

  • Condescending Behavior: Talking down to your loved one because he or she is struggling with a bad habit is a surefire way to help him or her lose confidence and build up resentment—resentment that can later be used to blame you for a failed quit smoking attempt. As a quit smoking supporter, you need to be very empathic—even if you yourself have never smoked. Quitting smoking is both brave and hard—don’t treat the smoker you love in way that makes him or her feel bad or ashamed or inferior. A smoker who feels like that will not be in the right psychological state to give up cigarettes.
  • Controlling Behavior: On the quit smoking journey, if you are not the smoker, then you are not in the driver’s seat. It is not your job to set ultimatums, provide willpower or make decisions vis-à-vis quitting smoking. Change is something that only comes from within. Change will only come from within the smoker—the smoker you loved will quit smoking because he or she has made the conscious decision to do so, not because you have made the decision for him or her.
  • Angry Behavior: Anger is not a constructive emotion when it comes to being a quit smoking supporter. Anger leads to fighting, shaming, and hopelessness. If the smoker you love takes a wrong turn, runs out of gas or gets a flat tire on the quit smoking journey, reacting in anger will only make things worse. Like all journeys, the quit smoking journey will have its ups and downs. It is up to you to be supportive by maintaining emotional balance and not giving in to anger.
  • Nagging Behavior: Nagging is never a way to get a positive outcome. Constantly harping on your loved one about quitting smoking while he or she is trying to quit smoking is psychologically stressful and can create tension and resentment in the relationship. Again, change comes from within. No amount of nagging on your part will create the authentic change from within needed for your loved one to quit smoking.
  • Negative Behavior: As a quit smoking supporter, you need to contribute to a positive healthy environment on the quit smoking journey. Negative thoughts, emotions and attitudes, then, should be kept at a minimum.

 

The quit smoking journey is not your journey. You are along for the ride as a helper—which means you need to engage in helpful behaviors. By avoiding the unhelpful behaviors listed above, you will naturally become supportive in a healthy way. And by being healthy, and truly supportive, you will increase your loved one’s chances of safe arrival at Smoke Free City tenfold.
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The Third Time Is NOT a Charm: Third-Hand Smoke Is Deadly Too

By now you are very likely aware of the dangers of first and second-hand smoke. But did you know that third-hand smoke has the potential to damage human DNA?

Every time a smoker exhales, remnants of tobacco smoke toxins are left clinging to various surfaces: clothing, walls, carpets, even the pages of books. And these tobacco smoke remnants do not simply die or disappear; they linger and, according to research conducted at the Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory in the United States, they cause genetic damage to all who come in contact with them.

The Lawrence Berkeley National Laboratory’s study is “the very first study to find that third-hand smoke is mutagenic,” said Lara Gundel, the study’s co-author, as well as scientist at the Berkeley Lab. By mutagenic, Gundel means that chronic exposure to third-hand smoke damages human DNA over time. So even if you avoid smoking in your home in front of guests, if you smoke in your home at all, you are still doing your non-smoking visitors damage every time they sit on your couch, brush against your wall or even place their feet on the rug.

The dangers of third-hand smoking provide yet another compelling reason to quit smoking for good. But maybe you are struggling with this task-maybe you really want to quit smoking, but just aren’t sure how.

Well, you are in luck. There is a harmless, easy way to quit smoking forever that is fast to boot; in fact, you can be tobacco free in as little as 60 minutes. The hypnotherapy services provided by Life Coach to Quit Smoking will help you address the source of the smoking problem-the springs from which your psycho-social issues vis-à-vis cigarettes originate. Once you know why you smoke, you can then re-train your brain so that it no longer associates tobacco use with pleasant experiences or psychological soothing. Thus, you can create a life that is life affirming; that is, a life that is characterized by health happiness and vitality.

Every cigarette you smoke leaves its poisonous mark on the surrounding environment. Do you really want to create smoke-filled spaces that make people sick? If not, then we’d love to hear from you and get to know you better, so don’t forget to like us on Facebook. And if you want to give us a shout-out, let the world know via Twitter!

 

Communication at the Basic Level


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At its most basic definition, communication is the exchange of information between two parties. It is a two-way system; it always needs a sender of the information and a recipient of the information. When you tell me something and I hear and receive it, that it the act of communicating. When a president addresses a crowd of people, that is the act of communicating. Writing a book for children is an act of communicating with a large group of people. This form of interchange requires that both parties are able to understand the information that is being conveyed and it is one of the foundation stones of our existence and social beings, so it is very important that we understand what it is and how it operates.

In humans, there are several types of communication methods that are used to exchange and convey information. These include:

Nonverbal: Nonverbal communication is also known as body language. It is the way we convey information without using our words-instead we use gestures and facial expressions. It can also include the kinds of clothing, hairstyles, and other physical representations that we use to send explicit or implicit information about ourselves into the world.

Oral: Oral communication is verbal and requires that we convey information by using our words along with other visual cues such as gestures, images etc. Communicating orally allows us to express our emotions in words and allows us to be more direct. It is also a vital form of interchange in the modern world-we use it for presentations, interpersonal relationships, education, and work.

Written: Written communication has developed over time and though it s vital part of the fabric of the industrialized world, it is not a necessity for human life and society to function like oral and nonverbal interchange are. Writing allows us to convey information at distances and for large audience, allows us to convey stories and fictions, and makes it possible to facilitate the needs of societies that span large spaces and have large populations.

There are many more detailed descriptions of the various methods of interchange that take place between humans and other species of animals, but the three listed above are the most basic forms of communicating styles. Communicating is at the nexus of our activity as human beings. We need to constantly share and receive information in order to build relationships, accomplish tasks, work, and at the fundamental level, survive.

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