5 Ways of Showing Your Gratitude

Gratitude Journal reminding ourselves of what we have

Use a Gratitude Journal to focus on your achievements and be grateful

Being thankful and showing those around you gratitude is a healing and fulfilling way to approach living your life. It makes you happy, keeps you balanced, and humble and fills those around you with a sense of worthiness and warmth.

Showing gratitude is a simple task

Gratitude can be a simple thank you when someone lets you borrow their pen in a science class or the gesture of holding the door open for a mum struggling with her grocery bags. Gratitude is a good tonic for many of the ailments in life. It can help keep you balanced and centered in times of great struggle. Practicing gratitude everyday is good for your heart and your mind.

Here are five easy ways that you can show gratitude in your life every day

This will not require a lot of energy or effort.

Offer a little extra help

Offering help does not have to be a huge exertion. If someone drops something, pick it up. Let them know that they are worthy of help and a little extra attention. No matter how small the action, it is the intention behind it that counts.

Make thank you your favorite phrase

Do you say thank you enough? Think about it. Making thank you a hallmark of your social interactions will make people appreciate you and want to spend time with you because they know they are appreciated.

Praise someone

Give an extra compliment to someone, a coworker or a friend. Let them know that you value what they do, what they say, and above all who they are.

Listen

You can show that you appreciate someone by really listening to what they have to say. Sometimes people just want to know that they are seen and heard, and if you authentically listen to what they have to say, you will boost their self-esteem and self-worth ten-fold.

Replace criticism with gratitude

Did your spouse leave the towel on the bathroom floor again? Did your coworker start chewing his food too loudly during a meeting? Instead of criticizing the habits that annoy you, try to focus on showing gratitude to the people in your life, even when they annoy you the most. You will feel better and more centered if you dwell on the positive instead of the negative.

Gratitude is a major factor in keeping us connected to those around us.

As human beings, we are relational and the main purpose in our lives is to keep ourselves connected with those around us, as this facilitates our ability to receive love, safety, and comfort. Showing gratitude is a way of making the people around us feel that they are worthy of love, safety, and comfort. Gratitude is a humble way of nurturing the seeds of human relationships that lead us all to feel better about ourselves and our place in the world.

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How to Prevent Teenage Smoking

To Prevent Teenage Smoking, we have to Understand Why they Start

If we want to help teens stop smoking, then we must ask: what is it that makes a teenager light up that first cigarette? Is it Big Tobacco advertising? Stress? Friends, Parents or Peer Pressure?

Kids Smoking - thinking it is fun

Influences that affect children and encourages them to smoke

The teenage years are a habit forming stage of life and in the rush to be cool or deal with the complicated modern world, smoking is an easy habit to pick up. There are over 125,000 Australians teens between the age of 14-18 who smoke, despite all the efforts to warn them about the harm of cigarettes. This shows that warning isn’t enough in the fight to stop smoking. We have to understand the root causes too. Let’s take a look at a few of the reasons teenagers start smoking in order to better understand how we can help prevent them from smoking

Peer pressure

The term peer pressure has become so cliché, but it should never be underestimated. At no other time in life is the pull of peer pressure stronger than during the teenage years. Teens want to fit in and want to be cool, even at the expense of their health. It is hard to get many teens to stop smoking if everybody else is doing it. Social media has had a role to play in the way teenagers make decisions whether they be good or not so good.

Stress

Cigarettes are claimed to be an unhealthy stress reliever. Some research has shown that Nicotine suppresses the emotions. So when a person is feeling stressed or anxious, they immediately reach for a cigarette and feel that instant relief. However this can also come from that initial cigarette a person smoked. Yes it tasted terrible but once they have mastered the cigarette, it makes them feel good. The unconscious mind is there to protect us mentally as well as emotionally. So when a person takes that first smoke they imagined that the cigarette made them feel better. In actual fact cigarettes increase stress and anxiety due to the toxins and poisons in a cigarette.

Modern teenagers are swimming in stress, some are even drowning in it. With pressures at school, in the family, and about the future, it is no wonder many teenagers turn to cigarettes as a recreational way to forget about pressures of life, even if it is for just a few smoke-filled minutes.

Teenagers are Invincible

With age we recognise the dangers of smoking cigarettes and the number of people who die every day from the effects of smoking. As a young person who is at the beginning of their life, they see themselves as living forever and that smoking won’t hurt them.

Family influences

Many teens pick up the habit of smoking because there are family members who smoke. Perhaps their parents or even their grandparents smoke. It is difficult for parents to get their teens to stop smoking if they are smokers themselves. Even though teens seem to want to have nothing to do with their parents, they are still looking up to them more than we think.

Above are just a few of the main reasons teenagers start smoking, but they give us some important insights into the habit. Peer pressure shows us that it is important to earnestly encourage teens to be independent and think for themselves. It is acceptable for them to make their own choices.

This may seem like a platitude, but the more we say, the more it will sink in. Stress shows us that we need to take a closer look at how society is shaping teenage life, and more specifically promote a culture of honestly talking about feelings and being able to admit that things have become too much, instead of letting cigarettes become the mouthpiece of teenage stress.

Good Choices

Family influences show us that smoking lights up a chain reaction. If parents and adults struggle to make good decisions, then we can’t expect teens to be able to make them either. We need to be more honest and open as a society about the root causes of smoking instead of just going after Big Tobacco.

Smoking is a habit that can be built upon the foundation of deeper problems in someone’s life, and we need to be able to address those problems if we want to prevent our teenagers from smoking.

Are you a Smoker?

Hypnosis can help you quit smoking in only 60 minutes. Just as healthy habits can be developed, you can also get rid of your smoking habit, under the guidance of a Hypnotherapist.

Maureen Hamilton- Hypnotherapist

Maureen Hamilton is a Hypnotherapist and a Quit Cigarettes in 60 Minutes Specialist. Maureen is a specialist who uses the most effective process to help people quit cigarettes in just 60 minutes with an outstanding success rate of 97.5% using a proven and successful technique which has worked for thousands of clients. Maureen can help you and take you from being a smoker to a non-smoker in just one session and offering a Lifetime Guarantee.
Call Maureen on 1300 619 684 or have a look at those people who have quit smoking and are loving their new life.

Becoming a Non Smoker

Did you ever smoke and are you now a non smoker? You must feel that sense of pride and achievement, and no doubt very, very happy and relieved. Yes, and of course it is an achievement and you have made it – so well done!

Receiving lots of comments and congratulations?

Family are usually the ones who appreciate the sacrifice and effort you have made because they are the ones who worry about you. Clients often tell me that their partner hasn’t made them give up.

Hugh Hamilton

Hugh Hamilton-Smoking killed him at age 47

However so often the smell, mess and worry about their partners health as a smoker is the true reality of their concern and silence. They feel helpless as I did with my husband when he continued to smoke. Being a trained nurse and knowing the facts, resulted in a great deal of stress especially with four young children. When my husband had his first heart attack, I was scared and worried, even more worried when he decided he wanted to work in PNG. Thankfully the hospital on Bougainville was the best equipped hospital in PNG. So we were blessed.

Twenty months later when he had his second heart attack I was working as the Nursing Superintendent at the hospital. The Medical Superintendent medivac’d him out the next day so he was in Brisbane when they diagnosed him two days later with extensive lung cancer. This had caused a blockage of one of the main arteries to his heart resulting in his heart attack. I sent one of the trained staff to travel with him so I could stay with the children.

The dangers of living on Bougainville

At that time Bougainville was becoming more isolated with the violence; the airport had been destroyed along with all the planes except one which had been severely damaged. However the staff were able to repair the plane sufficiently which allowed it to continue flying. It was a difficult time as I had two children still on the island. However a very dear friend agreed to care for the children until we could organise flights out of Bougainville. They also packed up our house which was a huge task. Such kindness is never forgotten as another very kind person gave up their seat on the next available flight to allow me to travel to Brisbane all the while unsure of how my husband was doing. We had to make four stops including an overnight stay in Cairns due to the problems on Bougainville. At every stop I wasn’t sure if I had a seat on the next flight as I hadn’t booked. However the airline used their emergency seating to accommodate me. When I arrived in Brisbane my husband was very sick as they had started chemotherapy. There was such a lot of cancer the body struggled to remove the dead cells from the cancer and chemo.

What about the Children?

I was delighted when the children arrived three days later and we could spend time with their father. We had 11 months with him before he died a most unpleasant death having gone through chemo and later on radiotherapy when he was diagnosed with brain tumours. However I will always look back on those 11 months and feel gratitude for this time with him. Wherever I can, I will continue to help other families so their loved one can have additional time with them. So love your partner, families and the world at large. You have had your life extended by up to 14 years now so love your life and enjoy those people around you.

How Can Hypnosis Help Me

If you are seeking help or experiencing the frustration of being a smoker, then reach out and make contact. My greatest love is to see just one more person being taken from the crutches of the cigarette companies and being free of this killing habit. I also offer a Lifetime Guarantee. This means if you ever smoke again, you can come back for another session and there is no charge to you. I can be contacted on 1300 619 684 or alternatively you can make your booking online and set your date to become a non smoker for life and in only one easy session.

Smoking’s Effect on the Teeth

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You are likely well aware of the many adverse side-effects linked to smoking http://lifecoachtoquitsmok ing.com/smoking-2/why-you-shouldnt-smoke-the-basics, but one issue that often goes unnoticed in the quit smoking battle is the harm cigarettes can do to your teeth.

What is so bad about smoking

Smoking is toxic and the thousands of poisons and chemicals in each cigarette hinder the functioning of your body’s circulatory system.This means that the blood you need to keep your gums healthy and strong isn’t quite making it to your mouth. Furthermore, cigarettes interfere with your body’s ability to generate new cells. As a result healing and preservation don’t take place vis-à-vis your teeth.

How can smoking affect the teeth

These are the main reasons why smoking can lead to a plethora of dental problems, including:
• Gum disease
• Bad breath
• Tooth discoloration
• Plaque and tarter build-up
• Inflamed salivary glands
• Oral cancer

All of the issues above are impediments to your health and happiness (who wants to go around with bad breath). What’s worse is that life with oral cancer can be fatal. Thus, smoking is tantamount to giving up on dental care.

Do you want to have healthy teeth

Then you really should consider quitting smoking. Perhaps you realize this and you are looking for a way to kick your cigarette habit? One quit smoking method that is worth your efforts is quit smoking hypnosis. Quit smoking hypnosis harnesses the power of the brain—the power you have over your own mind—towards positive changes in habits and beliefs. Since research shows that smoking is a psycho-social habit, quit smoking hypnosis gives you the chance to quit smoking for good by creating new, healthy habits that don’t include cigarettes.

You have the power to quit—you just need to make the decision to do it. And when you do contact Maureen Hamilton 1300 619 684 or go to https://lifecoachtoquitsmoking.com/ for more information and/or to book online. Maureen has been helping people to quit smoking for years and still gives a Lifetime Guarantee. So if the person smokes again, they come back at no extra cost.

Maureen is very committed and only sees people if they are also committed and have a real want to quit. So do give Maureen a call today.

Want Your Loved One to Quit Smoking? Here is What NOT to Do

If you have a loved one—a mum, dad, daughter, husband or best friend—who smokes, then you likely want to help him or her give up the deadly habit. But being a good quit smoking helper is not always an easy thing. And sometimes, the ways in which you try to help your loved one quit smoking can actually do more harm than good.

Depressed as he would like to quit

Depressed man smoking cigarette

So how do you become a good quit smoking helper?

Well, becoming a good quit smoking helper is actually less about knowing what to do and more about knowing what not to do. So if you are accompanying someone you care about on a quit smoking journey, here are some behaviors you should not take along on the ride:

  • Condescending Behavior: Talking down to your loved one because he or she is struggling with a bad habit is a surefire way to help him or her lose confidence and build up resentment—resentment that can later be used to blame you for a failed quit smoking attempt. As a quit smoking supporter, you need to be very empathic—even if you yourself have never smoked. Quitting smoking is both brave and hard—don’t treat the smoker you love in a way that makes him or her feel bad or ashamed or inferior. A smoker who feels like that will not be in the right psychological state to give up cigarettes.
  • Controlling Behavior: On the quit smoking journey, if you are not the smoker, then you are not in the driver’s seat. It is not your job to set ultimatums, provide willpower or make decisions vis-à-vis quitting smoking. Change is something that only comes from within. Change will only come from within the smoker—the smoker you loved will quit smoking because he or she has made the conscious decision to do so, not because you have made the decision for him or her.
  • Angry Behavior: Anger is not a constructive emotion when it comes to being a quit smoking supporter. Anger leads to fighting, shaming, and hopelessness. If the smoker you love takes a wrong turn, runs out of gas or gets a flat tire on the quit smoking journey, reacting in anger will only make things worse. Like all journeys, the quit smoking journey will have its ups and downs. It is up to you to be supportive by maintaining emotional balance and not giving in to anger.
  • Nagging Behavior: Nagging is never a way to get a positive outcome. Constantly harping on your loved one about quitting smoking while he or she is trying to quit smoking is psychologically stressful and can create tension and resentment in the relationship. Again, change comes from within. No amount of nagging on your part will create the authentic change from within needed for your loved one to quit smoking.
  • Negative Behavior: As a quit smoking supporter, you need to contribute to a positive healthy environment on the quit smoking journey. Negative thoughts, emotions and attitudes, then, should be kept at a minimum.

The quit smoking journey is not your journey. You are along for the ride as a helper—which means you need to engage in helpful behaviors. By avoiding the unhelpful behaviors listed above, you will naturally become supportive in a healthy way. And by being healthy, and truly supportive, you will increase your loved one’s chances of safe arrival at the Smoke Free City tenfold.
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How Can You Introduce Them to Hypnosis?

Do the research, check out the Testimonials on this site. Contact us and ask for the Information pack (no cost) and this will be sent out to you.  Once you have all the facts and you feeling calm, in control and there is a loving atmosphere, then perhaps let them know how much you love them and are concerned for their health. Share the information without going into too much detail. Then leave them alone and let them find out more themselves. This may take days, weeks or months. Just be patient and wait.

Why does it take so long to decide to Quit Smoking?

I had a chap come in yesterday to quit smoking and most of the arguments with his wife were over the smoking. He said he put up with it for years and the only reason he was quitting was because of a nagging cough – not a nagging wife! So do stop the nagging because I find this hold up the decision making process. Why? Because their self esteem is possibly low because of the negative comments they may be receiving because they are still smoking, if not from you then possibly their mates.

People often hesitate because they are fearful it won’t work and they will feel an even greater failure. So go easy and be patient.

How NOT to Be a People Pleaser

There are some people who could care less about what other people think or how they feel and there are some people whose self-esteem depends entirely on making other people happy. Both extremes are problematic and impede the development of healthy, fulfilling relationships.  Society, however,  tends to look more kindly on those who fall into the latter category—the people pleasers—and thus they have a harder time identifying that they have a problem.

If you are a people pleaser, then you probably spend most of your time thinking about the needs and feelings of others. You rarely, if ever, think about yourself. If you are a people pleaser, you likely let other people dictate the terms of your life. You probably feel very uncomfortable—or maybe don’t even know how—expressing your needs and feelings. If you are a people pleaser, then you likely have little self-confidence or sense of self. You look to others for validation and don’t trust your own instincts.

The problem with being a people pleaser is multifaceted. First, you repress your needs and feelings by always going out of your way for others. You let people take advantage of you. You don’t stand up for yourself. This behavior leads to anger, resentment and a very low sense of self-esteem. Second, as counterintuitive as it may seem, being a people pleaser is actually a control issue. Pleasing people means exerting control over them—“I did this for you, I made you happy—now you owe me.” Sound familiar? If so, then you probably notice that controlling people isn’t a way to show them love and care. Third, as a people pleaser, you are very likely going after the approval of people who didn’t approve of you in your younger years—mother, father, ex-boyfriend etc. You probably try to please people to fulfill an emotional void and you often try to please the wrong kind of people: people who use you, people who make you feel bad about yourself, people who are emotionally unavailable or even people who are physically abusive.

So how do you break the destructive people pleasing cycle? The answer is pretty simple: by getting to know yourself. When you learn to quiet your mind, be in your body and tap into your own thoughts, feelings and intuition, then you learn to balance caring for others with caring for yourself. And the more you get to know yourself, the more you make loving yourself a priority, the more you will realize that you don’t need to please people to get love and self-esteem. The people who are worthy of having relationships with you will love you for who you are and not for what you can give them. They will be there for you and give you a shoulder to cry on too. The people worth having relationships with will be about giving and receiving instead of just taking.

So stop being a people pleaser. Get to know yourself and get to know the kind of people you want to have in your life—the people who you can build healthy, fulfilling relationships with.

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Healthy Family Communication


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A good flow of communication is one of the building blocks of healthy relationships with people we care about. This is especially true of family. When families are able to talk openly and honestly with each other, they both parents and children are able to build mutual respect and trust between each other. Everyone is different and everyone has different needs, so cooperating through communication can help each person feel valued and heard and strengthen the spirit of family cooperation. Here are some helpful things to keep in mind when building your family’s conversations and connections:

Be clear and be direct: One thing that trips up conversations between family members is when they are indirect and foggy; when people don’t say what they mean out of fear, shame, or distrust, it contributes to a dysfunctional family conversation that can worsen over time. Make sure that all family members feel safe enough to speak clearly and directly about their needs, feelings, and opinions in order to avoid harboring an atmosphere of resentment and secrecy.

Try family meetings: Pick a time once a week where the whole family gets together to talk about all things related to the family or life in general. This is a really good way of staying connected, especially in our furiously busy lives. Make the family meeting a place where are all members come together to authentically connect with one another.

Have a policy of focused listening: Nothing jambs a conversation like an inattentive listener. It is rude and disrespectful and leaves both parties feeling unhappy at the end of the talk. Make it a family policy to listen intently and with focus to what each member has to say-this is a way you can show your love, value, and respect for them.

Avoid yelling and shame: Do not allow shame and ridicule to seep into your family talks. Shame and yelling are counterproductive methods of dealing with issues that lead to fear, guilt, sadness, and anxiety. Keep the conversation environment positive and make everyone feel that they are in the safest place in the world to express themselves honestly-their family.

Building a healthy communication environment is vital to sustaining the wellness and self-esteem of all members of the family. We are social creatures and we need to be able to exchange information, feelings, and opinions in a safe and loving space. Take the time to reevaluate the way your family talks and interacts with each other-it may be time to oil the hinges on your family’s communication express. If you do, you will reap the benefits that come with a family who has a deep respect for one another and the freedom to express themselves openly and lovingly.

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Communication at the Basic Level


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At its most basic definition, communication is the exchange of information between two parties. It is a two-way system; it always needs a sender of the information and a recipient of the information. When you tell me something and I hear and receive it, that it the act of communicating. When a president addresses a crowd of people, that is the act of communicating. Writing a book for children is an act of communicating with a large group of people. This form of interchange requires that both parties are able to understand the information that is being conveyed and it is one of the foundation stones of our existence and social beings, so it is very important that we understand what it is and how it operates.

In humans, there are several types of communication methods that are used to exchange and convey information. These include:

Nonverbal: Nonverbal communication is also known as body language. It is the way we convey information without using our words-instead we use gestures and facial expressions. It can also include the kinds of clothing, hairstyles, and other physical representations that we use to send explicit or implicit information about ourselves into the world.

Oral: Oral communication is verbal and requires that we convey information by using our words along with other visual cues such as gestures, images etc. Communicating orally allows us to express our emotions in words and allows us to be more direct. It is also a vital form of interchange in the modern world-we use it for presentations, interpersonal relationships, education, and work.

Written: Written communication has developed over time and though it s vital part of the fabric of the industrialized world, it is not a necessity for human life and society to function like oral and nonverbal interchange are. Writing allows us to convey information at distances and for large audience, allows us to convey stories and fictions, and makes it possible to facilitate the needs of societies that span large spaces and have large populations.

There are many more detailed descriptions of the various methods of interchange that take place between humans and other species of animals, but the three listed above are the most basic forms of communicating styles. Communicating is at the nexus of our activity as human beings. We need to constantly share and receive information in order to build relationships, accomplish tasks, work, and at the fundamental level, survive.

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Pregnant? Is Exercise Right for You?


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Many women worry about the weight gain that is inextricable with pregnancy. You often hear women talking about their bodies before and after baby, and how pregnancy really wreaked havoc on their body’s shape and their ability to lose weight. Since we live in such a body-image obsessed world, in which flawlessly skinny celebrities are often held as the ideal, weight worries can be a major danger zone for pregnant women, especially for those who worship at the temple of diet and exercise. This body-image mania can lead to under-eating and over-exercising during pregnancy. Let’s take a look at the ways that exercise can healthily be practiced during pregnancy in order to help you avoid doing any harm to your developing baby.

Regular, light exercise during pregnancy can help you feel good and keep your body moving and healthy. Light exercise such as stretching, yoga, and taking long walks can be really helpful and keep your muscles loose and your body and its metabolic processes running smoothly. Light exercise can also help prevent gestational diabetes, relieve stress, and build the stamina needed for the eventual labor and delivery.

Cardio during pregnancy can be ok, but you have to remember that cardio raises your core temperature, and your baby already has a higher body temp than you do-thus, too much cardio can overheat you and baby and lead to exhaustion and fatigue. When it comes to cardio, only you can know your limits, but you need to be aware that however you are feeling, your developing baby feels the same way only ten-fold. This is why it is best to limit your cardio workouts during pregnancy-you don’t want to overdo it and put yourself and your baby at risk.

Some women are actually not allowed to exercise during pregnancy. This includes women who have experienced recurrent miscarriages, are prone to pregnancy bleeding, have a weak cervix, a low placenta, or a history of premature births. Exercise can disrupt these women’s delicate bodies and cause miscarriage and premature birth. If you fall into one of these risk categories, limit your pregnancy activity to easy walks and simple stretches, but be sure to consult your doctor on what is safest for you.

Fitness during pregnancy is not a no no-you can definitely exercise and keep your body in shape while carrying your developing little one. The important thing is to know your own body, know if you fall into any of the exercise risk categories, and have a good rapport with your doctor so that you can get advice about the best pregnancy exercise route for you. However, remember that your life is not only about you anymore-everything you are doing is now affecting your baby. If that means you have to gain a little weight and it puts a little wear and tear on your figure then so be it. Your baby’s health should be the only driving force behind your pregnancy habits, plain and simple.

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