Are You a Non-Smoker While Your Partner is a Smoker?

Argument about Smoking

Young couple arguing about her smoking

This is not unusual as many people who are still smoking feel at a loss to quit smoking.

Living with a Smoker can be a real Challenge

Having lived with my husband for many years who was a heavy smoker, was not only a worry regarding his health, but there was also the cost. He was one of the healthiest men around, had never been to hospital and so very rarely was sick. However he was a heavy smoker and could not quit smoking.

Then one day at work he experienced a rather nasty back pain. An ambulance was called, and he was rushed to hospital where they discovered he had a heart attack. A month later he had a triple bypass.

It took him around 6 weeks to recover before he could go back to work. His job was quite stressful, so he looked for work elsewhere. Since he had worked in PNG, he did the research and we ended up back in Bougainville, PNG where he was the manager of the retail arm of Bougainville Copper. We loved it up there and I took on the role of Nursing Superintendent of the local hospital.

Included in my husband’s job was the management of businesses in other areas of PNG. Towards the end of the second year, my husband had returned from one of his trips around the territory and complained of the back pain again. Of course, we both knew what this meant. He was medevac’d down to Brisbane the next day where they discovered he had lung cancer and at the same time, having had another heart attack which was caused by the cancer.

Over the next 11 months it was challenging with chemo, radiation etc. However, I was very grateful as we had this time together before he died. It was heart breaking to watch him go downhill especially for our four children.

The reason I am sharing this story with you, if I had put pressure on my husband at any time to quit smoking, it would have been useless. When we put pressure on a person, they become irritated and the wall goes up. “They will give up smoking when they are ready, not on our timetable.”

The Questions is, What can You do to Help Your Partner to Quit Smoking?

Wanting to quit smoking is really important. Remember your partner may not want to quit smoking. So you need to be subtle.

My brochures are in many health centres around Brisbane. When I speak to a person who has someone who smokes cigarettes, eg husband, relative or friend, they ask me what they can do. If the smoker normally collects the mail from the mailbox, I suggest they leave a brochure in the mailbox for them to find. Perhaps if you cannot find a brochure, then do the research and find a hypnotherapist who is proficient at assisting people to become non-smokers. Make contact with them and ask for one of their brochures. Maureen Hamilton is a Hypnotherapist and offers a Lifetime Guarantee and loves sharing information with people.

Ask Your Doctor

If you are going to the doctors with your partner, ask your doctor what his thoughts are on Hypnosis to Quit Smoking. Most doctors are now more open to Hypnosis to Quit Smoking. In fact, we often have clients coming in to quit smoking after their doctor has suggested it or made a referral.

Over the years I have given talks to many locations including medical centres, especially to doctors and nurses and other staff. They are becoming more acceptable to hypnosis especially for quitting smoking.

Share positive stories with your loved one.

There are many people who have quit smoking. If you hear of someone you know who has quit smoking, then share this with your loved one. Do it as casually as possible.

There are many couples smoking. Perhaps one is keen to stop while the other is not sure.  Each person is on a journey and it is their responsibility to live their life the best way they know how.  If the other person is unsure, then putting pressure on them to quit will possibly have a negative effect. They will stop when they are ready.  Certainly not when they are being pushed or nagged at. So look after yourself and do what is best for you.

Is it possible to be a non-smoker living with a smoker?

Hypnotherapist Maureen Hamilton says, “Yes, absolutely! There are many couples where one person is a smoker while the other is a non-smoker and they are very successful remaining non-smokers.“

Role Model

Becoming a non-smoker often has a positive effect on the other person. Demonstrating how easy it is to stop smoking and how good it feels, may inspire them to also stop.  That is with hypnosis which is really easy. Ask anyone who has been to hypnosis.  Otherwise check out the success stories on the website

Maureen Hamilton is a Hypnotherapist, Master Practitioner and The Richards Trauma Process therapist. Maureen has been assisting people to overcome emotional and habitual issues including smoking, weight challenges, anxiety, and depression for many years. Maureen can be contacted on 1300 619 684 or check out the website and start 2021 on a positive!

Customer Testimonials

I am so glad I came too see Maureen to become a non smoker with hypnosis because it was extremely helpful, easy and well presented. Best of all I am now a non smoker after many years smoking and having tried everything else.
Therese Williams
Are You a Non-Smoker While Your Partner is a Smoker? was last modified: April 14th, 2021 by Maureen