What Is It About Teenage Girls That Makes Them So Difficult?

Moody Teenage Girls

Teenagers can be challenging

Ah the Teenage Years.

They creep up on parents out of nowhere, and explode with a hard slap of reality in the face. This is usually in the form of moody behavior, snide comments, and flurries of rolled eyes. Children who once worshiped and idolized their parents suddenly recoil at the thought spending time with them or listening to anything they say.

The teenage years can be a particularly turbulent time for mums and their daughters, and many mums, forgetting how difficult their own teenage years were, scratch their heads and wonder: why are teenage girls so difficult?

The teenage years are difficult for both boys and girls, just in different ways. The onset of puberty between ages 12 and 13 brings many confusing changes to girls’ lives. They start their periods, experience sexual curiosity, begin forming an individuated identity, and lives with the ups and downs of their powerful hormone cycles. These hormones control girls’ emotionally and they becomes prone to anxiety, depression, or rapid mood swings.

Recognise that Hormones play a significant effect on Mood

Being prepared for these mood swings can be invaluable. One of the best ways is to be prepared. There is an excellent book written by Michael Carr-Gregg titled Bitchface Princess. Yes I know. You are probably thinking what an appropriate name.

Girls become increasingly concerned with emulating those in their peer groups. Many girls want to chase “cool” and endeavour to find a way to fit in. This then throws parents, especially mums, into the adolescent stew which at times can produce a toxic reaction: screaming, fights, hysteria, sobbing fits, slammed doors etc.

The turbulence of the teenage girl years is unavoidable. It is something that every family must deal with, but that doesn’t mean it is easy. As a parent, there will be many rough days. Here are a few tips to mitigate the stress levels when dealing with your teenage girl, and keep your sanity as a parent.

Your Teenagers Brain is Still Developing

The frontal lobe for your child is that part of the brain responsible for impulse control, judgment, and decision-making. It doesn’t fully mature until we are in our early 20s. So often teenagers want to be an adult and it is as though they are striving so hard to make it happen. Yet their brain is still developing even though the rest of the body has developed and often appears as an adult.

Set Clear Boudaries

Teenagers aren’t happy when they are acting out. So they will need guidance and support to see them weather the “storm” of puberty. They will need clear boundaries set so they can feel supported.

This too Shall Pass

Teenage girls are quite myopic, and temper storms are usually quick to blow over. As a parent, your role is to diffuse the situation, not add fuel to the fire. The next time your teenage daughter rolls her eyes, screams, slams a door etc. just rest in the comfort that all storms reach a calm end and try not to engage her or egg her on.

Take Time for Yourself

Don’t let the stress levels surrounding your teenage daughter control the household. Make sure you take time to do things you like. Engage in activities that re-charge your battery and make you feel like you have a safe space outside of the teen disaster zone.

Keep an open mind and an open heart

Your teenage daughter needs you and your support more than you know. Not every aspect of a teenage girl’s life is marked by extreme behavior. Teen girls spend a lot of their time calm, collected, sensitive, and sweet too. Keep yourself available to your teen daughter and let her know you are there to talk to her about anything she needs. Make sure she knows how much you love here, even when your “I love you’s” are greeted with rolled eyes and an annoyed “I know mom(or dad)”

Teenage girls can be difficult, but as a parent it is your job to remember that you were once a teen too. It is your role now as an adult, to play the balanced role in the family. If you treat your teenage daughter with love, kindness, respect, and show her firm boundaries about what behavior is acceptable or unacceptable, then you will be able to surf the teenage wave to a more fulfilling relationship with your daughter in her adult life.

If you found this article of interest and feel your daughter of even yourself would like assistance to weather the storm of puberty, then reach out. You can also read other parenting articles that may be of interest.

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Cigarette Prison: The Smoker’s Isolation

Very often, we think of smoking as a social habit; that is, smoking is something that people do to connect with others around them. But as smoking becomes more and more of a taboo—especially in the public sphere—many smokers are beginning to feel isolated and alone as they see their friends around them quit smoking one by one.

Depressed as he would like to quit

Depressed man smoking cigarette

Not so long ago, smokers were everywhere. On planes, in the office, at parties, in their beds reading at night. And even though Big Tobacco is still a multi-billion dollar industry world-wide, headway has been made in the effort to get people to quit smoking: In Australia, for example, the smoking ban in all enclosed public spaces makes it impossible to light up in bars and restaurants.

Smoking bans

These bans plus people’s awareness that smoking is deadly, have contributed to lower rates of smoking in some cases here in Australia. But the shadow side is that smoking is now a stigmatized activity. In today’s world, smokers are usually looked down on by non-smokers.

The Stigma Surrounding Smoking

This can lead many smokers to feel isolated and alone. Some even go as far as to engage in their habit in complete secrecy. Others worry that they will be shut out or mocked by friends, family and colleagues because of their dependency on cigarettes. As a result, many smokers become depressed and unsure of what to do—they want know they want to quit, but aren’t sure how. They just feel so alone.

The good news

Is that smokers don’t have to feel isolated. They can give up their smoking habits without being stigmatized. Quit smoking professionals, like those who employ quit smoking hypnosis, help smokers quit without feeling ashamed of themselves. Smoking cessation professionals help smokers empower themselves to kick their cigarette habits for good. With the guidance of a good quit smoking professional, smokers learn to value themselves and build self-esteem. With self-esteem comes the ability to be alone without feeling isolated as well as the ability to socialize without feeling stigmatized.

No smoker need ever feel isolated because no smoker is ever really alone. There is always help for those who need it—and help to quit smoking is no exception.

Are you looking to quit smoking?

You have the power to quit—you just need to make the decision to do it. And when you do contact Maureen Hamilton 1300 619 684 or go to https://lifecoachtoquitsmoking.com/ for more information and/or to book online. Maureen has been helping people to quit smoking for years and still gives a Lifetime Guarantee. So if the person smokes again, they come back at no extra cost.

Maureen is very committed and only sees people if they are also committed and have a real want to quit. So do give Maureen a call today.

Grief vs. Depression—What Is (or Is There) a Difference?

In the past, psychologists and laymen alike have made clear distinctions between grief and depression. Grief is a state of sadness and pain that is triggered by an event that is a loss, such as a death in the family. It is a kind of depression but it is not the same as depression. Depression, on the other hand, can arise at any time and is characterized by hopelessness, the inescapable feeling of drowning in a pit of despair.  However, the DSM-5 (The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) is trying to change all that and wants to categorize grief as major depression right away even if someone is in the initial stages of grieving the death of a loved one.  Some people concur and some are outraged.

The DSM-5’s justification for the rapid characterization of grief as major depression has raised some eyebrows and some are worried that this change plays right into the hands of pharmaceutical companies who currently make a major profit on medicating the clinically depressed. However, it may be that people who experience a loss spiral into a pit of depression right away, one that they can never come back from. We are really treading in murky water here; how does on distinguish grief from depression?

Grief is a universal experience in mammals especially humans. We grieve as a result of the strong bonding and attachments we form with other humans. All cultures have a space for grief after loss, even if this space manifests differently. When we lose someone it hurts and sometimes we feel as though we don’t want to go on living. We become depressed, but most grief experts say that this period of sadness and hopelessness will eventually lift once we process what has happened and learn to resiliently accept the loss and move on. Depression, on the other hand, can be a life-long state triggered by mere biology alone. It is not dependent on a specific loss.

The true problem at the heart of this grief vs. depression debate may be that it illustrates our increasing cultural impatience. We live in a world of instant gratification, a world in which time is highly regulated and simultaneously lacking; everything needs to be done as fast as possible. Putting a timeframe on grief can be a dangerous thing because healing from loss is a process that cannot be boxed up and timed with a stop watch—it takes time and the healing process is different for each individual.

Grief and depression are both states of sadness, hopelessness and despair. There is a fine line between them but it is a line nonetheless: grief is triggered by a specific loss and depression can occur at any time. We shouldn’t speed up the grief process just because we want to categorize it as depression. It takes time to heal and process loss—time we should continue to allow ourselves in a time-strapped world.

The Connection Between Weight And Depression

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The medical and psychological communities are starting to come around to a more holistic idea when viewing illnesses of the body and mind: our body and mind are not separate compartments, they have a constant connection and influence on one another. For this reason, many people now recognize that physical problems can start in the mind and problems in the mind can be influenced by physical factors. One area in which researchers find the aforementioned statement to be true is weight control. Many studies, including one published in the Archives of General Psychiatry, are establishing a link between weight control and depression. This conclusion is intuitively self-evident to many people, especially if they struggle with weight control, depression or both. Let’s take a closer look at the relationship between weight control in terms of excessive weight gain and depression in order to better understand how they influence one another and how to end the unhealthy cycle.

One question many people ask when they accept that weight gain and depression go hand in hand, but like the chicken or the egg, many people wonder which one comes first? Unfortunately there is no clear answer to this one: depression and weight gain contribute to each other, but we can’t definitively decide in which direction. Weight gain can cause depression and depression can cause some to gain weight. Weight gain can lead to lower self-esteem and decreased physical functioning; enzyme and metabolic process are not functioning properly and this can affect serotonin levels and brain functioning which can cause depression. Likewise, depression can lead to a decreased physical activity, overeating and indulging in comfort foods and junk food and this can lead to gaining weight. Pinpointing where the cycle starts isn’t necessarily the key to breaking the unhealthy cycle-understanding how both contribute to each other, as mentioned above, is the way to identify unhealthy habits and find a way to create new, healthy ones.

Whether you are suffering from excessive weight gain, depression, or likely both, it is important that you seek professional help to address both issues. Resolving one issue often leads to the resolution of another. Seek a form of therapy and guidance that empowers your sense of control over your body and mind by helping you focus on building healthy habits related to eating, exercise, and mood regulation. Your body and mind are more intimately connected than you realize, and you are the driver of your body and mind. You also have more power than you realize when it comes to controlling your thoughts and habits, so take advantage of professional help that helps you take the reins of your life with strength and confidence.

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Obesity And Heart Disease: Know The Risks

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With so many people suffering from obesity these days, particularly in developed nations, it is important to understand the health risks surrounding excess weight gain. Obesity wreaks havoc on your physical body, and damages your mental state of mind; the cardiovascular problems associated with obesity affect both your physiological and neurological capacities, leading to issues like diabetes, depression, and most notably, heart disease. Heart disease is one of the most common and dangerous risks that obesity poses to people, so let’s take a closer look at the relationship between the two and what you can do to avoid engaging your body in this destructive relationship.

Obesity is defined as being overweight to the extent that a person’s BMI (Body Mass Index) is over 30. Obesity can be caused by genetic factors, such as a thyroid disorder, but it is most commonly caused by overeating, a lack of exercise, and a diet rooted in sugar, trans fat, and processed food consumption.  A person suffering from obesity will have high levels of cholesterol and high blood pressure, the leading factors that cause heart disease. Additionally, obesity can cause sudden chest pains caused by a decrease in oxygen to the heart (angina) and has been known to cause sudden death from heart problems or stroke without signs or symptoms.

As evidenced above, obesity and heart disease and related and cause a serious threat to your health.  The good news is that you have the ability to reduce the risk of these adverse effects now if you take your life back into your own hands and start developing healthier habits. Even if you are obese, changing your lifestyle to include exercise and healthy eating will decrease your chance for heart attack, stroke, high blood pressure, and high cholesterol; losing just 10% of your body weight will reduce these risks and get your heart back on track.

While heart problems and obesity can be caused by genetic factors, the ball is really in your court in terms of avoiding these dangerous health problems. You have the power to shape and control your eating and exercise habits—it is up to you to choose a healthy lifestyle and then make the commitment to live it day by day. Visit a nutritionist, make a healthy eating plan, join a gym or make an exercise plan on your own. All of these things will contribute to your overall health and sense of well-being, and will help you to avoid health problems that can impede on your enjoyment of life or even cut it short.

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What Is Obesity and Why Is It So Dangerous?

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The word obesity is thrown around a lot today, especially in relation to the affluent lifestyles that are typical in the Western world. More money means more food, and it has now gotten to the point where more money means too much food; according a recent data collected by the BBC, between 30-40% of adults in England and America are considered obese, but it is a problem that is everywhere. Obesity is especially alarming because it now affects children-the Australian government claims that about 25% of children in Australia are obese.

Obesity is a major public health threat and it is important to understand both how it affects people and how it can be avoided in order to get people back on track and living healthier lifestyles. Let’s take a closer look at obesity and its causes in order to better understand why it is so dangerous.

What is obesity?

Obesity is the abnormal accumulation of excessive body fat that leads to health problems. Obesity can be measured by a person’s body mass index (BMI). To determine this number, a person must divide their weight in kilograms by the square of his or her height in metres. A BMI of 30 or higher indicates that a person is obese.

Obesity is caused conjointly by inactive lifestyles with poor diets. There are certain genetic conditions that can lead to obesity, but the majority of obese people in the modern world carry excessive weight due to lifestyle choices. Fast food, sugar, trans fat, and starches have become dietary staples across the West, and these are the primary foods that lead to excessive weight gain. Coupled with the fact that many people drive cars and do not get regular exercise, obesity rates are rising at an alarming rate. It is particularly disturbing that the obesity trend is increasing among children, because obesity is a dangerous condition that comes with many serious health threats.

Why is obesity dangerous?

Obesity is dangerous because it is a gateway health problem: it leads to many more serious physical ailments. Some of the health problems associated with obesity includes diabetes, cardiovascular diseases, and even cancer. Obesity is dangerous because it leads directly to life-threatening illnesses.

Obesity puts strain on the body’s circulatory system, muscles, and bones. It makes people lethargic, and this inactivity can also lead to depression-physical activity is a major booster of serotonin and a natural anti-depressant. So obesity can lead to mental health problems as well as physical problems.

Obesity is a real and dangerous health problem that is confronting the modern world. Development has made life easier for humans, and it has made it easier for us to indulge our appetites-physically as well as materially-to excess. The good news is that avoiding obesity is pretty simple: eat healthy and exercise. You don’t have to deny yourself the treats of life, but you don’t have to go overboard either.

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